Once again, I'm painfully reminded of the vicissitudes of life. A path once diverged, no longer has anything in common with those whose path stays true.

To one ownself, one must stay true.

If one does not have plans for oneself, others would fit one into their plans. And once one no longer fits into others' plans, woe be upon oneself, for willing to shoehorn oneself into others' plans. Witness for example, the treatment levied upon Ting Huiling Huiting.